Ever since the P.O.C.C. debacle
I’ve been contemplating on the “black gay community.” At times it’s a phrase that hasn’t made sense to me. Let me explain, a friend of mine said he was at a party that was majority black and gay. There was a woman of transgender experience there and she was bluntly shunned. No one would speak to her, make eye contact and many were quizzing why a “he-she” was there. The transgender woman told her friend, “This is supposed to be my community.” Her friend replied, “If this is your community you better find a new one!”
I’ve also seen this happen to feminine men or anyone whose gender identity might be a bit alternative. However, when I’m in a white or mixed gay environment, I never see anyone made to feel uncomfortable because of their gender presentation. Note:
I’m not saying every black gay male is like this, this is an example (you know how the speed reading kids do
Another example, after my SOHH.com
interview on gays and hip-hop someone told me, "Well, it doesn't matter if a rapper came out because black gay people wouldn't support them. We don't support anyone!" I replied, "No, that isn't true—the problem is even if every black gay person supported a gay rapper, the rapper still wouldn't be successful. We are not the white community." He didn't get it.
The black gay community is incredibly small. There are only 12% of black people in this country. There are only 10% of gay people in the country. So that means when narrowing to the black gay community you are chopping the numbers down even smaller. There aren't enough of us to make any artist successful. We are extremely specific and packed to mainly cities like New York, D.C, and Atlanta (maybe Chicago and L.A.). Is that a community or just a gaggle of girls?
Now, after the P.O.C.C. cataclysm and several other canceled black pride events this year around the country, I wonder how could this actually happen to a “community”? Answer is: we don’t have the leadership, money, resources, or even the numbers. Honesty, I think the numbers are the most important, there just aren't a visible amount of us. There are so many black gay people who are tragically closeted and wouldn't attend a Pride Event even if Jesus was there, handing on new sexual orientations!
We have problems that the black community in general endures. We don’t have an ethnicity, religion, or language. When I’ve gone to Dominican or Puerto Rican gay pride events they have cultural bearings that are removed from America -- even if their native country might have perceptions of homosexuality that are uniquely different than the United States.
I would call the ballroom scene the black gay community, but so many other black gay people look down on the ballroom community.
Let me be clear, I think there is a culture
of black gay people, there are numbers of black gay people that are sufficient for statistics, but a "community"—somebody show it to me. Of course when I am talking to the straights I use the word "black gay community", but in the back of my mind... I wonder what that truly means.